Inside Bangkok Dating

Living With a Thai Girlfriend – Rules and Salary

In order for your relationship with your Thai girlfriend to run smoothly you might find that you have to treat your Thai girlfriend like you would a child. There will be living together issues that crop up from time to time. There will be things that she does that you just can't tolerate. Like having the TV turned up loud enough to hear it at the next seven eleven shop while she is watching her favorite Thai soapy program. Most Thai girls love a Thai soapy and enjoy it loud.

Imagine this, she is watching the Thai soap opera then suddenly she decides that she wants to do something else like eat or sleep. Does she turn the TV off? No! She just walks away and leaves it roaring. Hey, who pays the electricity bills? You right?

Of course one way to solve the loud TV problem is to rent a condo that has a lounge room and bedroom. Or you could rent a two bedroom house. That way you can enjoy the convenience of separate rooms. Being able to do that will depend on your budget.

In Pattaya, Phuket, or Bangkok you and your Thai girlfriend could rent a single room condo of around 38 sq.m for about 5,000 baht per month. A two room condo unit could cost you double or more. You will just have to find a place that you and your girlfriend feel happy with. However I highly advise you to go for the extra room if you can afford it. There will be more issues than a loud TV that you will have to address.

Thai Girlfriend Living Together Rules

If you can't afford the extra private space then you will have to work extra hard on creating a set of “living together rules” that you and your Thai girlfriend both agree upon.

These rules will be important for the survival and longevity of your Thai girlfriend relationship. Please don't take this lightly. Your girlfriend will be accustomed to rules in her work environment. In fact correctly implemented work rules that are logical and simple are usually the backbone of any successful Thai business.

Thai people are comfortable with rules. Clear and logical guidelines that they can easily follow makes life simple for them.

Bar girls are already accustomed to this kind of treatment. In the eBook "After The Rush" (about developing a meaningful relationship with a Thai bar girl) a set of bar girl work rules are examined. Within the bar girl work rules there are six instances of the girls having their salary reduced for lack of compliance and in one instance childish behavior.

You could take this rules system and apply it to your relationship with your Thai girl.

Suppose for example in the first few weeks of living together your Thai girlfriend (TEERUK) regularly does something for you that you really enjoy. This thing that she does could be one of the many reasons that you decided to shack up with her, live with her. It might be a relaxing oil massage.

Keeping Your Thai Girlfriend Motivated

Suppose that after the fourth week of your relationship for some unknown reason your girlfriend stops providing this favorite treatment that you enjoy so much. Suddenly your enjoyment is diminished. You would want this special treatment to continue wouldn't you?

How can you motivate your Thai girlfriend to continue behaving in the way that she did when you first met her? Usually you will be paying your girlfriend a monthly salary. You might ask, "How much should I pay my Thai girlfriend every month?" The answer is not simple.

I know some falangs who pay their Thai girlfriends 5,000 baht per month. others who pay 10,000 per month and a few who pay a monthly salary of 25,000 baht and up to 30,000 baht. Setting a fair salary rate will depend upon various circumstances. It is beyond the scope of this article to discuss them here. Approach the salary issue carefully and don't pay too much.

Should you follow the example of the bar girl rules and reduce her salary for lack of consistancy? Threatening to reduce her salary might work but unless you approach this in a certain manner you will create a huge problem for yourself.

I know falangs (foreigners) who have threatened to reduce their Thai girlfriend's salary in an attempt to induce better behavior. A few have succeeded because of the way they approached the problem but those who didn't succeed faced emotional turmoil. It is the latter that all sane men would want to avoid. Right? The downloadable eBook "After The Rush" contains guide lines that will help a foreigner to build and consolidate his relationship with his Thai girlfriend and avoid the “hell hole”.

If the above link is inactive just go to http://www.after-the-rush.com

The important thing to consider in a cross culture relationship is the development of a relationship plan and guide lines that you can both refer to when needed. If you have a set of win win rules on which to base the development of your Thai girlfriend relationship your life will run much smoother.